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Choosing to run, hide, deny and ignore instead of communicate respectfully and effectively is cowardly at best and often douchey. Shirtless photo-in-the-mirror profile pics? Duck lips? Double douche. Oompa-loompa orange tan with frosted lips, fake nails and tramp stamp? How old are we? Red flag! To borrow from Animal Farm: "All men are created equal, but some men — the attractive ones — are more equal than others.
The science: Price said that as a hyper-social species, we seek social recognition, popularity and status. We want to be valued by others. People who are more attractive have to do less, in terms of altruistic sharing, in order to make themselves valuable to other people. That's because they're already highly valued by others as friends, mates, etc.
If you're less attractive, then you're more likely to have to make yourself valuable to other people by being altruistic and sharing your resources.
That is, you have a greater need to get people to like you because you have something to offer them in terms of your altruism, even if you don't have as much to offer them in terms of your attractiveness. Everyone wants them, so they never settle. Their egos are huge. Because women are constantly fawning over them, they become pretty arrogant and shallow. They can have anyone at least in their minds , so they cut down on women who are less than perfect.
In their minds, they have to because if you complain, they know someone else will gladly take your place. They care more about image than quality. This means putting other people down just to keep themselves up. For one thing, negative thoughts can actually hurt your immune system, making you more prone to sickness, according to researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
While you're not being a douche, you might as well help your brain. Try these 27 Ways to Boost Your Brainpower. Your Move: Fight irony with earnestness. Guys like this feed off your shame and embarrassment—but unflinching confidence works like kryptonite against their jaded worldview.
Celebrate your accomplishments unabashedly, and watch him retreat into the darkness. Signs: Forget the water fountain—he slugs from his personal gallon. He occupies no less than three weight machines at once. Just follow the breadcrumb trail of pound weight plates. He wants to own the gym, and make his musculus deltoideus your center of gravity. Most of his advice is worthless, especially to the newcomer.
The truth is, you don't even really need to be in the gym with this guy if you follow this amazing Outdoor Workout.
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