I am freshly married, but have been with my husband for some years now. We have children together. When we met I was in a very abusive relationship, I like to believe he saved me. As time has passed I have slowly realized how our similarities were merely on the surface.
Sometimes I wonder if he was just brought into my life to awaken me. At our core…we are no longer similar. He is a very angry person…naturally so. And I have learned to be so, otherwise I avoid conflict. It goes deeper than that but that is a big deal. At my place of work, a co worker and I were great friends. We just clicked. And then one day we both crossed that final line two married individuals should never cross.
Over time, we grew closer. I, too, did the same. But we have recently reconnected over email only. I feel such sorrow being forced apart from him, he says the same. Firstly, you are clearly not happy in your current marriage. So I would end that, regardless of wether you decide to be with this other man. My parents remained in a loveless marriage and grew more and more bitter as time went on.
There are billions of other people on the planet and chaining yourself to someone clearly unsuitable forever is just a waste of life. Instead, those who married perhaps to hastily or in their youth or by young selfish needs, and have grown as adults estranged from the person they once were, that they can grow and morph at any point in life and should not conform to mediocrity or settling in lieu of what they now have a better grasp of to be extraordinary.
I feel incredibly fortunate to love both my husband and a second man I consider to be my twin soul. I have a great marriage — why mess that up? All you do is think about the person you want versus the person your married to. I have been married for 25 years.
For the past 18 months I took a job that was miles from my family. I traveled back and forth every other weekend. When I was there, I met a woman who we both connected and felt like we were meant for each other. I am 51 and she is After 6 months, she said that she will convince me to marry her in 5 years. Over the next 6 months, I was confused on this but we fell in love. I had to suddenly leave job since it ended and returned home.
She has not communicated and feels I was taken away since she believes God takes away those not meant to be and puts people in front of us that are meant to be.
I am totally lost. I love her. I have never felt that happy with her presence in my entire life. How do you feel about your spouse? Does it make you love your soulmate, more or less? If you met your soulmate after being married and was attracted to new person, that might be indication that you were lacking something in marriage and that s what you found. When you decide to stay in married life inspite being your heart always beating for her, it really tough. You see your wife, u remember her, when your wife holds your hand or shares smile etc..
You start feeling that you are cheating your wife and then its your call. I love my spouse — we have been together for 18 years, have a child, and a wonderful life together. We are creative partners. Yet my relationship to him can often be draining. Up until that point in my life when we married, I never knew a love so strong. Until I met a certain someone…. When I met 2, I felt immediately at ease in his presence, like I had just sat down next to an old friend.
I had never had that feeling before with anyone in my 37 years on the planet. My love for 2 is different for sure — I feel safe, happy and peaceful with him. I feel protected and loved by him. I meditate a lot. It makes it easier to love both men. So I keep my feelings to myself, and do my best to respect him and our marriage, and that means sometimes going months without talking to the other man.
I feel fortunate to have so much love in my life. I hope so, but not if it means hurting my spouse. I have to look at the situation with humor and try to stay graceful. I will be happily married for 2 years this October but 5 months ago I truly feel I met my twin soul.. I was calling him my soul mate until I read this article. I thought I had met and married the love of my life but I am now going through constant second thoughts as to maybe if I just waited, I could be with the true right one.
I would hate to break up my marriage but this has caused me to second guess my relationship and go through a lot of emotional ups and downs with myself looking for the right answer. I know this other person has a pretty serious relationship but feels the same way. He has not come out and said it but I just automatically felt it and the feelings have grown over the past 5 months. What do I do? I was in a similar situation about 14 months ago.
I had met my soulmate online, playing a video game , and was already going through very hard times with my now ex spouse.
We had our child without planning to, only 4 months into the relationship I was pregnant. I had been in 3 long term relationships before him, and between each man I never took the time to be single, to learn to love and be comfortable with myself. Every rebound turned into the next relationship.
I met C while still living with X and deciding to stay or go and fighting and screaming a lot of the time. With X, I felt the same confusion — unsure if I was staying with him out of guilt because of how devastated he would be if I left. And I ended up leaving him right after I met C. I feel that I did that with X. I am consumed by the fear of making the wrong decision. Is it the right choice?
I was only strong enough to reject X once I met someone else to run to. C felt like my soul mate during the first 6 months, but this inner turmoil has made me feel a lot of negative emotions towards C, and has made me question if he really is my soul mate. I feel so confused. I wish there were some way someone could answer for me, but I know that only I am the one who can answer this life-altering decision.
The distance definitely adds another element of pain and confusion. Even thought it was unfair to X to leave him too. When I try to tell C, he is very upset and feels certain that I will end up with X. Sometimes she can be brutally honest and occasionally spiteful and bullying.
After a decade of marriage, I think we both settled. So here I am like so many other people who feel they are missing out on their soulmate. I was always sceptical in regards to stuff like this. She has even told me that I am what she has wanted and waited for. I feel the same way about her. She and I can talk all day via texts and email and then do it all again at night.
Understandably, it is very wrong from a moral and integrity point of view, but it just feels right with her. Everything does. It sounds as though your wife has already emotionally moved on from you, which will make things easier. Dear Anne, thanks so much for this article. I decided, because i didnt know where to go, and that i didnt want to leave my fiance, to get married. We eventually got over that hiccup, but constantly found ourselves at the crossroads of either this changes in our relationship, or I was out the door.
Then about 3mos ago, i met this man through theological debate and i was going to have his head because it got so heated… but he took the chance to talk things calmly with me.. We originally just wanted to be friends, and at the time he didnt know i was married. It was only when I started falling for him that I told him that I was married. He stayed and has been helping me work through my toxic relationship with my husband and helping me find ways to escape.
I actually spent a few days with him when he came out for a modeling gig I had going on and when I saw him and we embraced, i felt instantly safe, secure and loved so deeply. He loves me unconditionally, and I love him the same. There is nothing that compares to how I love him. I used to care about the fallout if i wanted to pursue someone else, but with him i dont care. I have never been so connected to someone, so enamored, so taken.. Its been extremely hard since my family is super christian.
I have recently come accross someone who I believe is my romantic soulmate. The reason I believe this is because when I first saw her and started paying attention to her I began to get a series of emotional breakdowns where I would breath heavy and even cry.
I also suffered a series of severe insomnia attacks where I stayed awake fore an extra day with a lot of emotional pain. I love you. Unfortunately like the person in this article she has married someone else and has kids from him.
Also, we are incompatible. She has a successful career and I am a failure in life. Now that I know who she is and how wonderful she is my fear is that we will not be together in this life.
If I have to wait for the next life for us to reunite and with the whole karma deal that could take centuries. It took me 46 years to come accross her. Plus we will have different bodies and I like the way she currently looks. I love this woman! All I want is her to recognize me and remember me for who I truly am. Her romantic soulmate. I would greatly appreciate any help or recommendation. Thank you for this insightful post. I have been in a relationship for 20 years, with a man I love deeply.
This last year we have been having issues, I was 17 when we started dating and now I am 37, obviously I have changed a lot. I feel recently I have been on a voyage of discovery, which he has no interest in being a part of.
I have never felt like that with any man I have met. I rarely feel attracted physically to anyone, and almost never on a spiritual level. He is thoughtful and philisophical and have a wonderful soul. He is single god knows how but I am in a relationship with 2 children. Does this mean he is my twin soul?
Do you act on it, or should I keep my distance? I had worked for an oil company and noticed a man in the elevator that I was drawn to like a magnet.
A few months later I had seen him in passing, a very quick glimpse. It was him again! Out of pure desperation I looked his name up in the directory to find out where his office was. He happened to sit next to a college I knew but on a different floor than mine This was a very large company. I walked up to his office and asked if he knew where a colleague of mine was that happened to sat in an office next to him.
He told me he was on vacation which I already knew but wanted this mysterous guy to know who I was reason? Well I wanted to send him an email mind you I am still married, but separated at this point.
This is what I wrote….. This may sound stupid, but I have always been curious about you ever since I saw you on the elevator about 6 months ago. I just found out yesterday what your name was, but I was also told that you are returning to Germany in about a week.
That was me that just walked in your office to ask you where David Chavez was. I hope you understand. He responded by phone and yes he was married with 2 children, but he asked me if I would like a coke and then brought it down to me at my cubicle.
We talked awhile and then he asked me out for lunch. We had instantly fallen in love, I mean instantly ….. He surprised me with a kiss during that lunch. It was insane. We were immediately attracted to one another. The very next day we met up again and started communicating via email…. This guy was very educated, extremely smart and had a doctorate in Chemical Engineering.
We continued our communication by thousands of emails and phone calls as we were thousands of miles apart. He had made up reasons to fly back to the States for work, but it was actually to visit me. He did this a few times during this year. It was extremely painful to say goodbye each time. We were never sexual, only kissing. After a year, I flew to Europe to meet him for 3 days. After that he had decided to talked with his Mom and Dad as he was wanting to divorce his wife, but he could never come to terms of hurting or leaving his children.
In the meantime I had filed for divorce and did finalize that. It just was not working out even before mystery guy. I am still friends with my ex-husband to this day, love him dearly, but our relationship had ran its course. Thankful, we never had children together. Anyway, a month later I had flown to Europe to be with this guy while he separated from his wife and children.
We ultimately decided to end our relationship and I returned to the States. He has said it is purely a biological decision in terms of his past. Although I completely understand and respect his ultimate decision, it was the most painful thing I have ever felt and am still enduring.
This was 15 years ago, I still feel this love for him as if it were yesterday. It does not go away. There is so much more to this story in terms of never-ending phone calls, letters, emails and poems, in which I have saved everything. This Doctor Zhivago scenario has left me very tormented. I completely understand this dilemma. I had been in a relationship for 6 years when I met my soul mate.
I met my soul mate completely out of the blue. In fact I already knew him from years before but he was married then and I never gave it a thought. He had popped into my head over the years when certain things reminded me of him but I never dwelled on it. When I met him on this occasion, completely unexpectedly, I knew immediately and everything changed. I searched my heart for months over what to do about my relationship but my feelings for my soul mate were so strong that I knew what I had to do.
Six months post separation from my previous partner I do not regret the decision I made at all. I am not in a relationship with my soul mate, however he is in my life and I am grateful for that. We have not spoken about love and feelings specifically. I do not know if we will ever be together romantically but I know I love him unconditionally and that is a lovely feeling. I also firmly believe by his actions that he loves me unconditionally too.
We have a connection that I cannot even describe or explain. A relationship that my friends do not understand because it defies explanation. He has helped me see my previous relationship for what it was and that even if he is not my romantic partner ultimately, I have freed myself of a situation that was slowly stifling me and destroying my soul. I feel better and more alive now than I did in my relationship and if that is all my soul mate was sent to me for, that is enough for me.
It appears I met my soul twin through a mutual friend, and we became best friends. Both of us were broken from relationships. I had just divorced and he still lives amidst his broken marriage. We had always been able to say the same thing at the same time or answer each others questions not even knowing one was coming.
The friendship has been so powerful for both of us and so many good things have healed in both of us due to the simple unconditional acceptance we have had for one another. I was able to give him a lot of truths he needed to hear and he helped restore all the broken in me from my marriage. Then we realized we were too connected to one another.
So my problem is this. I still feel all the connection with him. I feel him when he walks towards me emotionally or when he pushes away. I feel his interactions with his wife.
Is there some way to make it stop? I did research trying to figure out what sort of thing is happening to me that is so totally crazy sounding, yet so utterly real, and I found this page. So how do I disconnect?
My marriage was horrific and now that I know this sort of connection is possible, I feel anything else will be settling. Life feels utterly good and we can sit and say nothing, even on the other end of a computer. It feels like home when we are around one another and we have never once touched physically.
I put on a fake face for everyone and hide all that has happened. Any advice you can give will be helpful. Dear Anne, That was the clearest most important piece of writing I have ever seen on this topic. Thank you for saying it all so simply. I believe that if it is meant to be, circumstances would clear the way for it to happen. It is a complex experience with no right or wrong answer. Only choices to consider.
Anne, thankyou for this article. It was strangely reassuring to read your comments about the dilemma facing this chap. It is the same dilemma facing most of the people that have posted replies to your article. It would seem that people who are sufficiently emotionally enlightened to experience these feelings are almost always pretty selfless people. I myself have a hard time accepting this as I confess I am romantically involved with my soulmate after months of telling myself that the physical line was the last line I absolutely could not cross.
It is a moot point but the betrayal of our spouses is much more of an emotional one than anything else. And if so, how did they choose to go about it? Stay strong everyone x. I just want to say that this has recently happened for me. I was on some sleepy level, unhappy. I accepted my fate, sort of thing. When I met my soul mate, I awoken, I was alive, I realized the depth of my unhappiness because I am able to measure it with how I felt when I was with my soulmate.
Both of us felt this way and both of us were in marriages, with kids. We both decided that this was our last chance at being truly happy. This is really it. However, the drive for us was too strong — we are literally willing to do anything to be together. After months of meeting each other and working through our situations, the plan took fruition. We left our marriages, and now we are together.
Instantly, a new life sprung from a slumber, for both of us. Now the future is bright, I am the happiest I have ever been, and life is exciting. The relationships we broke, we took care to keep the cordial, both ex-partners accepted the situation — almost as if they were unhappy as well or excited for a new start.
It almost seems to be to good to be true, but that is a natural feeling now that I have found my soulmate. I suggest to anyone who finds a partner like this, and you feel it is something that needs to be a romantic relationship, think about yourself in this regard. You only have one waking life right now, who knows what your future holds, but if you found true happiness, take it. Dear Anne, thank you so much for this article! Reading it has helped me gain a whole new perspective.
However I am still lost and maybe you can shed a little more light on it for me. Several months ago a co worker and I connected on a very deep amazing level. Unfortunately, he is 18 years my senior and married with two children.
I get to see him regularly but we have agonizingly avoided taking it to a romantic level. I know only time will tell but right now I am so torn over what to do. It hurts terribly to be away from him but I am fearful of the consequences of breaking up a marriage and of hurting my boyfriend.
In my heart I believe we are soul mates and most likely twin flames, but how do i know for sure? I know this is all part of my spiritual growth and awakening but hopefully you can give me some insight on my situation! Thank you! I have been in a relationship with my fiancee for 11 years now and have 2 young daughters, I find my fiancee hard work as she has some form of autism we think at least she saw a specialist before we met but he never gave a clear answer , her communication is the worst part of this as well as she can get very loud which pierces me.
I currently cannot work because of health issues and find myself looking after everyone, by doing all the cleaning, cooking, gardening, shopping if I wasnt doing it it basically wouldnt ever get done. This went on for a few weeks and we found we had lots in common, in fact as of now its freaky how much we have in common. We started to talk via text messages too just as friends still at that point. She had a date arranged with some guy, and I knew from talking to her that she had a few failed relationships and dates previously, this is when I started noticing I had feelings for her, part of me wanted this date to go well for her and the other part of me felt very jealous of the guy she was dating.
Little do they know about the plans God has for them. There is a big reason behind everything that happens. All you have to do is believe in yourself and have faith in your destiny for the things that you do not control.
Sometimes I feel being a human itself is a curse. This is the truth. His awakening and although it saddened me to see him with her. I knew the love i feel is between us and no one else. I met my soulmate in high school. I knew he was the one when we met. I still feel him in life even though we are not together anymore I must be losing my mind or maybe from time to time he still thinks about me too.
Sometimes, the person will prioritise their marriage over the soulmate connection, even if they are unhappy, they may take months, or even years to walk away from a marriage. If this is the case, remember that your feelings are yours, nobody can take them away, and that you are free to love without an attachment, without expecting an outcome.
Regardless of what is the case, the truth is that when your soulmate is married to someone else, you need to give up control and accept that it is a situation that is not in your hands to resolve. For this reason, it is important that you remember to live your own life and let time make things fall into place. Release control and surrender the soulmate connection , trusting that it will be for your highest good either way. The major lesson here has most of the time to do with the acceptance of the decisions that others make and has the purpose to show you a hint of what unconditional love truly means.
If you want to delve deeper into the soulmate connection and what this means for you moving forward, talk to one of our soulmate psychics at Zenory via phone or online chat reading.
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These carefully c. Do you listen to music and often think about your soulmate? Soulmate songs and tunes can trigger some. On my birthday, I found a present on my desk when I came to work. I looked at Al — he pretended not to see me but I could see him smiling. I asked him what was in the small box wrapped in pink paper, with a pink bow. He said Santa came a bit early. We laughed. When I opened the box, I was shocked. It was a golden necklace with a heart-shaped pendant. I was speechless.
I looked at him and stood up and went closer. He kissed me on the cheek, saying I deserved it, and he wished me a happy birthday. I have met his girlfriend and she is a lovely, young lady. We spoke a lot.
I love my husband and Al loves his girlfriend. His girlfriend would come to the office, and when they kissed, I would just excuse myself or go to the bathroom. When he kissed me, Al would turn his back and pretend to do something or leave the room in hurry. I realised that I loved Al on the day I was leaving the company. I left because of him and I think he knew that. After our co-workers had said their good-byes and Al and I were alone, he took my hands and placed a package in them.
He told me not to open it in front of my husband. He smiled and pinched my cheek, saying he would miss me. And we hugged. I waited a few days before I opened the gift. Inside was a notebook, a note and four CDs of my favourite band.
The notebook contained the lyrics of many love songs which he had written. And in his note, he confessed his love for me. He wrote that if I just gave one sign that I accepted it, he would burn bridges for me. I felt he is my soulmate and true love but not possible love. I dream about him a lot. On my birthday recently, he texted me to wish me. I heard he got married finally and is expecting a baby.
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